Jump to content
Invision Community
Sign in to follow this  

10 Things Nobody Tells You About Being A Single, Career-Oriented Woman in Your Twenties 1

Recommended Posts

I was recently told by a guy that he didn’t think it was a good idea for us to continue dating because I was “too career-oriented.” [Insert the deer in headlights, eyes bulging emoji].


I work in a culture where 11-15 hour days and weekends are the norm, where a “9 to 5” sounds like a dream. If this is your reality too, you may be the “Classic Corporate Worrier,” to borrow a phrase from Nigel Marsh’s TED talk in which he says he was eating too much, drinking too much and working too hard. Sound familiar?

After the initial shock and a lot of reading, here is what I learned and wished that I knew before going down a path of being completely career-focused so early on in my career.

1. Work is really hard.

In law school, I thought that I would work really hard now so that I would work less and less over time. My dad was a dentist and my brother is a doctor. Over time, medical professionals work less. This is not the case for Corporate America, nor is it the case for lawyers or other business professionals. You work a lot and it’s actually really hard stuff and can be stressful during your twenties when you’re still trying to figure things out. The work takes on a life of its own. It’s not only the hours, but the stress that you’re under during those hours. This works out OK for some people and not for others. It’s OK if you’re one of the people that it’s not right for.

2. There is no such thing as work-life balance.

In careers like law, private equity and other corporate professions that are prestigious and demanding, work-life balance does not exist. This is worth repeating: work-life balance does not exist. Your best bet is “outsourcing,” which means paying someone else to do things at home that you don’t have time to do.

3. You will be one of very few women in your work environment.

These types of careers lend themselves to male-heavy institutions. You may have been surrounded by females in graduate school, but this will not be the case in your career. For example, as of 2013, only 16.5% of partners in law firms were female, according to the National Association of Law Placement. This means you’ll be around a lot of men all of the time, and you’ll need to connect with men “all day every day,” so be ready for that.

4. Male coworkers hate seeing you cry at work.

When you cry at work, it makes your male coworkers feel awkward at best and incredibly uncomfortable and judgmental at worst. They really don’t like it. This is tough if you’re overwhelmed by your job. Something to think about.

5. Everyone is already married (although you can’t figure out when that happened).

You will go from being in school where no one is married to your job, where everyone is married. This is unexpected, and if you’re not careful, you’ll put the pressure on yourself to catch up with your colleagues (because you’re competitive and type-A so this is just what you do). Remember to be on your own time with this one and don’t drive yourself crazy over it (even if it means going solo to work events and describing yourself as a “yogi who likes to cook” in your welcome email because you don’t have family to talk about).


Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

Sign in to follow this  

  • Create New...