I am 62 years old and I retired this past August. I always said I couldn’t wait until I didn’t have to work anymore. I was looking forward to what I thought would be a time to do things at home that I never had time to do.
But most of all I thought my spouse and I would do things together that we didn’t really have time to do when I was working. He was on disability for quite a few years so he was used to being home. He is content sitting in his recliner napping, playing on his cell phone and watching TV. He is not one to make conversation or make plans to do anything together.
I don’t like sitting around doing nothing. I feel like my life is passing me by. I am frustrated and sad. He says we are here together what more do you want. He tells me that I am not happy no matter what. I wanted to retire now I don’t like being retired. I feel so alone and sad that he doesn’t even try to understand.
I have been with this man for 31 years. Our life now is not what I envisioned it to be and he doesn’t want to change anything. I need to know if I am wrong for wanting more than just to sit with him while he sleeps in his recliner and I read a book or stare at the television.
I want to know that I am not alone and if anyone has any suggestions I would love to hear them.